I saw about fifteen minutes of them. I came home from a jog this evening and my husband had the TV on, so I caught a small snippet before dinner. Sadly, it was the section where they award all the prizes for Short Feature (otherwise known as Best Random Filmette that No One Watching At Home Has Seen) … in other words, not the highlight of Oscardom, from my [admittedly limited] perspective. But whatever. I got to see two young acresses whom I don’t know (Carey Mulligan and Zoe someone?) present the award and I got to marvel at their outrageous dresses, which is really the whole point of the Oscars, isn’t it? This is especially true when you, like me, see one movie a year. Once upon a time, I used to see nearly all of the Best Picture nominees. What changed? Oh, right; I had kids.
Speaking of which, it hit home to me just how much we have to control our TV-viewing now that Matthew is at the very impressionable age of three. At one point, the Oscars happened to show a clip of some movie with a large, warty, voracious-looking alien creature, and I instantly clicked the TV off. Alas, I was not quite so quick on the trigger when Ben Stiller came out, with blue skin and yellow eyes, made up to look like an Avatar character (or so I think. That did not happen to be the movie I saw last year.) Matthew stared at him, wide-eyed, and Scott and I instantly spun into damage control mode. “Ha Ha Ha! Look at him! He’s so FUNNY and SILLY!” Oh, man. Matthew is in a phase where many things are “scary.” Last night he got frightened by a crumpled piece of cardboard under the dresser in his room. If he comes wailing into our bedroom at 3 A.M., I’m sending him to Ben Stiller’s house.
But anyhow, it was still a fun fifteen minutes. And though I don’t savor the Oscars like I used to, I know that it won’t be long before this phase of parenting changes, and I’m able to see at least a few of the Best Picture nominees again. Heck, maybe I’ll be able to take the boys to some of them.
So at about 1:20 today, exhausted from shepherding recalcitrant students through Macbeth, I checked my email. There was a message from Lukey’s daycare provider, letting me know that my little man had taken off his diaper while [ostensibly] napping. Needless to say, the diaper contained more than just pee, and my avant-garde little Picasso ended up smearing this exciting new artistic medium all over the crib and wall. “Please make sure you send him in a onesie next time!” she begged.
Suddenly, shepherding recalcitrant students through Macbeth didn’t seem nearly so bad.
I forwarded her email to my husband. About five minutes later, there was a message from him in my inbox. “Should I bring her some flowers when I pick up Lukey?” he asked.
You change in lots of ways when you become a mom. You start to do things you never thought you’d EVER do: things like pick someone else’s nose, or carry Matchbox cars in your purse, or stare at your kids while they sleep.
That sleeping kids thing is something that never gets old. I talk about it more in my new Catholic San Francisco column, “Evening Prayer.”
1) It’s Friday night, and I can already tell you what the weekend will hold: A) plowing through piles of grading; and B) fighting my everlasting cold. Humph. It’s hard to imagine any circumstance, short of winning the lottery or having a visitation from Mary, that could make this weekend top last weekend. But that’s life, right? Sometimes you have a nice romantic date with your honey, and sometimes you have an extended dull date with your schoolwork. The variety keeps us on our toes.
2) I’m a big fan of grandparents. Sometimes, I forget that Jesus had them, too. My latest Busted Halo Question Box answer dives into the question of who Mary’s parents were, and what we know about them, and how we know it.
3) They say you can tell a lot about a person by the books she reads. I’ll go one step further and say that you can tell even more about a person by the books she RE-reads. And the one series I’ve re-read more than any other in my life are the Betsy-Tacy books by Maud Hart Lovelace. Never heard of them? Aww, you’re in for a treat. You can read all about them in my latest column at CatholicMom.com.
After many Winter Olympics, I’ve realized this: I much prefer ice dancing to figure skating. I love how ice dancing gives so much room for creativity in choreography and costuming. And for me, ice dancing is more relaxing than figure skating. Every time a figure skater does a triple lutz, my heart stops until she lands on her feet (assuming she does). In ice dancing, it’s just not an issue.
So I stayed up way too late the other night to watch the free dance. It was worth it to see the gorgeous fluid elegance of Tessa Virtue and Scott Moir. (Incidentally, my husband’s name is Scott Moyer — same pronunciation. Imagine hearing an Olympic commentator say, “Now on the ice, [your husband's name].” I was doing double-takes all night.) They were beautiful and flawless and I look forward to many more exquisite routines from my husband’s Canadian counterpart.
But there is one ice dancing routine that reigns supreme for me. I saw it eighteen years ago, and I’ve never forgotten it. In 1992, real-life spouses Marina Klimova and Sergei Ponomarenko won gold for their routine “A Man and a Woman” at the Albertville Olympics. It is absolutely, positively, goosebump-inducingly GORGEOUS. The choreography, the music (two very recognizable pieces by Bach), the costumes, the mind-blowing talent of the skaters… it’s pure passion on ice. I had an old VHS tape of this that I thought was lost forever, but, through the miracle of YouTube, I have found it again.
Do you have five minutes to spare? Watch this. It’s easily the most romantic ice-dancing routine I’ve ever seen.
No, what am I saying? It’s easily the most romantic anything I’ve ever seen.
So you know how Valentine’s Day is supposed to be the day when you celebrate romance, love, and that special someone?
Well, we bumped it back a week.
Saturday morning, Scott and I left the boys with my folks and headed for England … or what felt like England, anyhow. We went to stay at this inn in Muir Beach, just minutes from the Golden Gate Bridge:
At this point, if you are a fellow Anglophile, you are probably salivating like a St. Bernard. Honestly, this is the most fabulous place. It makes you feel like you’re in a Daphne Du Maurier novel. It was built in the 1970s by an English expat, who lovingly designed it to make it look just like an old inn across the pond. I think he did a darn good job.
Take, for instance, our room, which looks like something Moll Flanders would have slept in:
Here was the view out of our leaded windows:
There were great old framed prints on the wall. This one clearly depicts a time long before PETA:
(Yes, that guy is trailing a dead deer by one foot.)
Oh, and this was our shower curtain, with knights, dragons, fair damsels, and castles galore:
Best of all, the inn is a short walk to the beach. It was a cloudy, gray day; the water looked metallic and was unbelievably loud as it crashed to the shore. It was the kind of beach I love. It made me think about Star of the Sea, one of my very favorite titles for Mary. (I admit it; I’m a geek.)
“Do you think you would be a more spiritual person if you lived overlooking the ocean?” I asked Scott, as we sat on a bench on the bluff.
“I think you’d have to be,” he said. We watched the waves together, looking at the splash of sunlight reflected on one little section of the waves, soaking in the loud thunderous crash of it all. There is something so soothing about looking out at that line of the horizon. It sounds cliched, but it made everything else sort of recede for a time … everything, of course, but the great guy sharing the bench with me and keeping me warm. In fact, the entire weekend brought him — actually, us – into a nice sharp focus.
Three minutes after school started yesterday morning, the power went off. It stayed off … all day. Turns out it was a citywide outage due to a small plane crashing into some powerlines (three people died, tragically, in the crash).
We couldn’t send the kids home without first notifying the parents, and we couldn’t notify the parents without power. So what did we do? We all taught in the dark. Blinds were pulled all the way up, doors were propped open, and I wrote in foot-high letters on the whiteboard. It was like being a Londoner during the Blitz (except for, you know, the Luftwaffe). I just kept calm and carried on. Miraculously, I got through about 75% of my lesson plans. It is amazing what you can adapt on the fly. It’s all the more amazing considering that I was doing it on an almost- empty tank: you know, that Ash Wednesday fast thing.
After school, I had a chunk of time before picking the boys up from my folks, so I took advantage of the unseasonably warm day and went for a jog/hike in the foothills. It was a glorious afternoon. The sky was blue and the hills were green, with that bright spring green of new grass. Where the trail was in sun, it was perfectly dry; further along the path, under the oaks, the ground was tacky with old mud, but smelled fresh and deliciously earthy. I paused at the top of a hill and watched the gentle almost-spring sun slide along the slopes, and it was quiet enough to hear the breeze in my ear: a beautiful, soft, intimate sound.
And I thought about the day: a day of darkness and light, of fasting and celebration. It was neither one thing nor the other. Everything was mixed, ashes and sunshine together. And I thought about how life is like that sometimes: everything all at once, a dizzying mix, a wild ride — and a memorable one.
Yes, I did plenty of cutting and pasting as a kid, and I do enjoy a little browse through Michael’s every now and then. Still, craftiness (in the non-devious sense of the word) is not one of my gifts.** Give me a hank of raffia, and I am likely to put it in an animal’s cage. I do not trust myself to use a hot glue gun without inadvertently affixing my hand to the table.
That’s why I am still pretty proud of these Valentine’s decorations that I made, out of my little old imagination, about four years ago.
I’d bought a darling book of 1940’s era valentines at the local Borders (I’m a sucker for anything retro), and I wanted to do something to display them. Somehow, in a rare flash of artistic inspiration, I got the idea to buy thick red ribbon and staple the valentines to it. I know this concept is somewhere on the level of Remedial Arts and Crafts, but I have to say, I think these look pretty darn cute.
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